I told a mom friend I was pregnant with #2 and said, “mother to mother though, this is a big secret and I want the people who find out to hear it from me or my announcement” and she said, “of course! I wouldn’t ever tell anyone!”

Fast forward a month, I go to tell my friend, and she said, “omg ___ told me that a month ago but I didn’t know for sure and figured if you really were you’d tell me when you’re ready. But congratulations I’m so happy for y’all!”

So I text the mom friend saying, “hey, did you happen to tell ___ I was pregnant?”

She says “no omg of course not! She came up to me at the bar and asks if you’re pregnant and I told her I had no idea!”

Me, offering another chance at redeeming a little trust, I say, “I’m not mad, but you’re the only one who knew that knows __ and could’ve told her that.”

She not only goes on continuing the denial and lying, but then proceeds to say, “why is it a big deal anyways? She’s your friend, and you’re already gonna announce soon. So why does it matter?”

I simply repeated, “I’m not angry.... but, I told you a secret and thought you understood it was important to keep. Accidents happen and things slip out sometimes, I understand. I just wish you’d be honest with me. But it is a big deal because I wasn’t able to announce my first pregnancy with this pride and excitement due to being young, unmarried, and not yet having a place to raise a child. So this is a new experience for me I want to get every moment I can of. It’s not a big deal because thankfully everyone knows who needs to know, but it would’ve been better if she learned from the mother and not someone else”

She still denied having told her saying “idk where she could’ve found out but it wasn’t me”

And it’s really not a big deal.

I’m not angry, just a bit disappointed.

I’m not shocked, just a bit offended.

At the end of the day it’s better to know who you have too close in life, and move them further away from you.