So I'm 16w3d and my family still doesn't know I'm pregnant. I'm feeling a little guilty about this because when I'm planning on telling them (March 17th) is exactly 4 months before my due date. I've kept it a secret for multiple reasons (I'm extremely high risk due to just having a C-section 8 months ago and gestational hypertension, it's my second and I just wanted to enjoy the pregnancy for a while before people hound me with questions, I'm once again due within days of a family member who already announced, my sister just had twins and it was her last pregnancy so I wanted her to enjoy the spotlight for a while... And more). I feel like my family is going to be angry with me for not telling them all earlier, and that they'll be saying that I'm not ready for another baby. I'm worried my sister will be upset that her babies aren't the babies anymore. I'm worried my cousin will feel like I'm taking away from his wife's spotlight. I'm just dreading telling anyone (besides the few friends that know). It's really putting a damper on my excitement over this pregnancy. Part of me wishes I would have announced at 12 weeks like I did last time, but I want to wait until the anatomy scan and until viability since I'm high risk. What would you all do? Would you be upset if close family didn't tell you until 23ish weeks? Would you announce to family early on even knowing there's a pretty high risk of losing the baby?

I'm stressing myself out and just need advice 😭