So, a little back story. My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years. Gonna be 10 in July. We eloped and got married a year ago. I didn't tell anyone because we were planning on having a ceremony anyway. My adopted parents never liked him before because they think he's up to no good blah blah blah. They never liked any of my friends. They think they're bad influence on me. Well, I'm a Nurse Practitioner student and will be done this year. My husband has been in the army. After all the accomplishments we've done together without my parents help.. now they praised me and my husband. My mom kept mentioning on getting married (even know we already are but she just doesn't know it )because he's in the army and I'll get benefits blah blah blah even though I make my own money. I would never want him to marry me because of his benefits. I want him to marry me because he loves me you know? Well.. she didn't know that we eloped.. so i told her that we got married and to not tell anyone because we will have a ceremony when I'm done with school this year anyway. (Btw, I'm not really close to my parents.. they used to talk shit about my husband and me.. saying i will be up to no good and will never pass my boards) so, my mom told my dad I'm married and the entire family knowing.. of course i got lots of questions on when, why, how, why no invites etc. The worst part is my mom pretended that she didn't tell my dad about it even though she did. And she's saying that I'm a bad daughter and ungrateful for not inviting them and not telling my dad I'm married. And I'm just baffled because she knows we're gonna have a ceremony and she knows that it's supposed to be a secret and she still managed to blame me for her mistake and rubbing me on everything she ever done for me. I only stayed with them for 2 years after getting adopted. Don't get me wrong.. I'm so grateful and thankful for everything they've done but i always get reminded of it. She always rubs it in my face.. I'm not a bad kid. I never partied, never smoked, never do drugs , I'm a straight As student. I'm doing grad school now.. and for some reason.. everytime i talk to her or let her in my life.. i always get disappointed. There's always drama.. and it's always my fault. Like she can't say sorry for telling everyone that I eloped and making me feel bad about it.