So.. one of my best friends is always in and out of abusive relationships. She has a 1 year old with her abusive baby daddy. He cheated on her while she was pregnant , hit her , pushed her , choked her , told her she was nothing , spit on her and more ... yet she still wants him back... her baby is now 15 months.

While they were on a “break” she slept with a lot of guys and got pregnant again by one of them on purpose to get back at her baby daddy...

Her baby daddy beat her again and called her all sorts of things. He also doesn’t help with the child at all. Not financially, emotionally or anything. He even said he hates his child.

But she still wants him back. So to “prove her love to him” she is going to abort the baby that she got pregnant with on purpose to get back at him in the first place ?

I have been there with her through it all but I can’t take it anymore now she is just dumb. I’m an pro choice but she has had 4 abortions within 4 years she uses it as birth control not just for emergencies.

She doesn’t even have a job or anything. Her baby doesn’t even have insurance even though she can get it for free through the state cause she is lazy. She just doesn’t get up and go to the office I’ve even offered to take her.

So is she just dumb at this point or am I a bad friend for judging her ?

My man wants me to cut her off cause it’s affecting my life cause I’m always worried about her and she calls me crying all the time and he’s just over it.

I’m not really ready to cut her off cause we have been friend for 9 years.

I’ve told her she can do better and she is beautiful and doesn’t need him I’ve tried to get her help she doesn’t want help.

Thoughts ??

Update ; okay so I’m not the only one who thinks this. My man also thinks I should call cps for her child cause she doesn’t take care of her child anyway. I give her $10 randomly when she needs diapers and I buy her child clothes and shoes just cause I feel so bad. I love her child. I wish she could see what she is doing.