As of late my girlfriend is always gunning for an argument. It doesn’t matter what it is its worthy of having a full blown argument over it. This morning “this toast is too buttery and now I have to leave the house- I’m starving” now she’s left and texting me- ‘I actually hate you’....

over TOAST

She argues with me about not getting up in the morning at the exact time she wants me to. Making her tea thats too milky- not putting enough tea in the mug. We’ve had arguments because I don’t want to stand with her in the bathroom while she showers or because i’ve thrown away some food that she was saving to have that evening. We’ve even had arguments over me leaving a light or plug switch on when I leave for work and accidentally leaving the heating on. Really silly things like when I go to visit my parents and stay a little later than I should she wont speak to me for days.

No matter how much I try to get across that these aren’t big deals and definitely aren’t argument worthy It always ends the same way. ‘I can’t stand you’ ‘I hate you’ ‘You’re useless’ ‘You’re lazy’ ‘I don’t want to be with you’ ‘I’ll find someone who isn’t useless’. I just sit there in tears because I cant imagine my life without her. I just want her to realise that the arguments we have really aren’t worth it. Im an extremely laid back person- but I feel like I’m walking on eggshells with everything I do. If i step one foot wrong its going to explode into a pathetic argument where I just stand there and get slammed for doing something incredibly minor or even nothing at at all. How can I get her to realise these arguments should not be happening? I don’t really do anything wrong and Im tired of dealing with arguments that just effect me emotionally.