Every night my husband takes time for himself. He works hard every day and claims he needs this time for himself. He smokes, drinks, is on his phone, watches TV. Some nights he doesn't even come to bed. My body is programed to wake up at 3 to go find him and make sure hes ok. Tonight I told him please don't forget to come to bed I need you. I woke up again tonight at 5:45 and find him smoking on his phone.

It sucks waking up to an empty bed when your married and the other person would rather be away from you doing something selfish.

Its been months and almost a year of this. How selfish am I in this?