Was going to go to the beach with my friend tomorrow, but after thinking of the long drive and everything I’m putting forward I have ahead of me, I thought it wasn’t worth it.

Waking up and leaving at 7:30am (One and a half hour drive to get to her), buying her coffee so she can wake up because her sleep schedule is horrible, only to be told I’m “killing her” by waking her up so early, One and a half hour drive to the beach to hang out for maybe 4 hours, me paying for lunch and anything else we do, just to drive her back home and her not contributing anything. I have to work at 6am the next morning. I get it was my idea to go, but she’s not offering me gas money, not offering to pay for lunch, and not offering to do anything. I’d literally be supporting her the whole day, and I’m just not ok with that. Is it selfish for expecting someone to help pay for things, especially since it sounds like she HAS money to contribute because she’s buying herself coffee every single day?

Even yesterday I went for a drive up in the mountains and when I posted the photos, she commented saying “you should have taken me!” I literally tried calling her at 10am on messenger and the phone rang for 5-10 minuets with no answer. I messaged her and no answer. I went by myself. Even then, the drive was 2 hours long, and that would have been even longer going to pick her up and taking her home.

Gas is expensive 🤷‍♀️ I had a friend group I used to hang out with (before we all got too busy with life) who literally paid for their own things, even though it was someone else’s idea to go out somewhere. It’s called common curtesy.