I have a 4 month old son with my live-in boyfriend whom I’ve been with for almost 4 years. I met him shortly after moving to a new city 4 years ago, so I don’t really have any friends. We’ve had many ups and downs since the relationship started, but we have pulled through and come out strong. Before I got pregnant, we liked to go out on weekends, eat, drink, and be merry. Obviously, once I found out I was pregnant, that had to stop. Since then, we’ve had a lot of arguments about him going out and drinking because I don’t feel thats a part of our lives that we need to or can continue and I don’t feel he should continue it alone. Both my mother and my sister dealt with marriages where the men went out to drink while they were at home with the babies/kids and both of their marriages ended in divorce. I refuse to live 11+ years dealing with that like they did. I’m breaking the generational curse. My boyfriend leaves the house at 4:30am and doesn’t return until 7:30pm due to long hours at work plus a long commute to and fro. So when he brings up his coworkers inviting him to drink after work it bothers me because I feel like he should want to come home after a long day, not spend more time with the people he already spends all day and all week with... He doesn’t do it because he sees it bothers me, but it has created problems because he actually wants to. What he has done is go drinking with coworkers if they get rained out (meaning they leave work early) and he hasn’t told me until he gets home and I can smell that he’s been drinking. It upsets me because instead of thinking “I could go home and we can go have breakfast or lunch or I can take her to see a movie” he’s thinking “let me go get drunk and spend more time with people I see more than my family.” At this point, I honestly don’t know what to do. Am I being unreasonable? I think at this point in our lives (we’re 30) he needs to grow up and realize that he’s not single and he’s not childless. He’s now a father and common-law husband. I could just leave him if it comes down to it, but I’m also thinking of my baby and what it was like for me to grow up without a father figure. What are your opinions? How would you go about this situation if it were you?