My husband just got home from deployment and I found out he had been messaging a girl from his past that I’ve already told him I was uncomfortable with. I didn’t see any actual evidence of their messages but her phone number was saved as just the number all the way at the bottom of his contacts whereas before he left for deployment it was completely deleted and blocked. My question is would I seem absolutely crazy to text this girl from my phone and ask when the last time she spoke with my husband and what it was about? He swears up and down he didn’t talk to her but if he didn’t why was she unblocked and her # saved??? When I asked him he got very defensive and told me he wanted a divorce because he says he doesn’t want to deal with me freaking out about him talking this woman anymore, and before anyone asks, yes they have been very flirtatious and sent pics to each other in the past. I don’t want to come off as crazy but if you were to receive a message like the one I want to send from someone’s wife would it make you mad or would you be happy to give her the truth? Also, would you see it as weird or crazy?