Update!!! Troubleshooting first time

Hey so having sex for the first time and it hurts so freaking bad. Like I end up crying out in pain and then he gets soft. What I don’t understand is why I can’t get wet enough. Used to when we’d make out id get so so wet that I’d soak my panties... now I hardly get wet we keep having to use lube. Every time he tried to finger me it hurt. He goes slow and doesn’t make me do anything... I feel so bad bc he is trying so hard for me to be comfortable and go slow but idk what to...

So I was making breakfast and messing with him and making out just feeling super sexy and then I realized I was so wet! So I told him to go in and it felt SO GOOD!!! I think maybe since I just finished my cycle maybe my libido was low and I just had a hard time getting wet. Like this time I just felt like I actually wanted it!! Before when he would ask if he could go in me I just didn’t want it but this time was different... I freaking loved his finger in me!! It was amazing! Can’t wait to have his dick in me...