I met this guy on Instagram. He contacted me first. He’s a freshman at the college I will be going next year. He seemed very nice, caring, and old fashioned (he did say he wanted an old fashioned relationship). I was very excited to meet him. He offered to pick me up and drive me back to his dorm to hang with his friends and watch a movie. When we got to the dorm his friends never showed. I told him from the beginning of us talking that I didn’t want to have sex the first night of dating. I want to know him better.

That night he kept saying things like ok but we’ll see we’re the night takes us, and it’ll bring us closer when we have sex and come on you know you want it.

Meanwhile I just want to watch the movie. He keeps pushing and pushing and I still say I’m not ready to have sex. However he kept making me feel bad. So I gave up fighting. I let my body just lay there while he played with me and had sex with me. He kept asking if I was ok because I was clearly not.

When he was about to cum he said if I ever got pregnant with one of his kids he’d just leave me cause School was more important. (He had taken the condom off. Luckily I have an iud) That’s when I kicked him so he’d get off me. He did not cum in me.

I asked him to drive me home.

The next day he came over and asked if I would do oral on him. I said no I choose when and who I do sex acts with. And too be honest I would much rather wait a few months to do anything. Just my personal preference, and he should have respected that last night.

I obviously blocked him. And will never see him again.

I just don’t know where to go from here. Was it rape or was it just over reacting?There’s no evidence, so should I just let it go?

Thanks for the help!