Husband said this?!

So I’m a SAHM, the past couple weeks has been long because my husband works late. Today I took the kids to the beach which is an hour from our house and came back to pick him up early. I bathed the kids and then we were going to turn on Disney+ in our room. (Mind you my kids haven’t napped all day) so they were irritable and didn’t want to nap. I was on my phone trying to relax a bit and my oldest (2) starts freaking out and the youngest starts crying so I’m trying to feed the youngest a snack. Finally calmed them both down, at this point my husband is clearly irritated. While making dinner I ask him why he got so irritated with the kids? His answer “well I don’t want to tell you because you will get mad”. When I finally got him to tell me his reasoning was that I didn’t offer help to him while he was freaking out trying to handle the kids. This is irritating to me because I always take care of our children, I don’t complain or get so irritated because I chose to bring them into this world and care for them. Why is it such a big deal for him to take care of his own kids? When I explain this to him he gets mad and doesn’t feel he is doing anything wrong.

Am I wrong for wanting him to be an actual parent?? I should always have to help him, he should be able to manage instead of expecting every time to drop everything and help him. I feel so overwhelmed all the time and don’t feel like he holds much responsibility at all.