Communication tips

Help! My husband is my best friend, treats me like gold and is loyal as a golden retriever. Since we had our son however I feel like our communication just plain sucks. It’s almost funny that we both feel the same - we both feel like we have to walk on eggshells around each other, he feels like anything he says to me I take the wrong way or get annoyed etc. And I feel the same about anything I say to him. The other day I asked him and I quote “when you shower next can you give the walls a scrub” I immediately felt him get annoyed so I asked why, and he said “it’s just the way you say things like “scrub the walls when you shower” it’s so demanding” and I’m left like 🤔🤔🤔 wait what?! That’s not what I said?! I know I didn’t say please but I ASKED if he could do it (he’s tall enough to reach the top of the shower I’m not) I didn’t command him to do it and get it done right away? This has been happening all the time lately, more and more, and I will 100% admit I do the same thing, and I don’t know why. I feel like everything we say to one another no matter how small or inconsequential it turns into an issue - not a big argument but definitely causes tension and I hate it. How do we relearn how to communicate again?! How did this happen?! 😭😭