Anniversary Nightmare AITA?

Hello!!

So to kick things off my boyfriend, J, and I are celebrating our 3 year anniversary together Friday- yay!

We also just moved this past weekend- we moved a 4 bedroom house with three different living rooms to pack up, move, and unpack so this is no small feat and we’re a long way from being finished!

In addition, March is a horrifically busy month for both of us at work because of March Madness for him and CAP season for me. To put it in perspective, it’s fairly normal for me to spend 1-2 days a week working from 7am to 10pm during this month. He’s usually there from 7am to 5pm.

To top things off, our roommate couldn’t afford rent because of the move and my boyfriend had 0$ to his name after moving, so I loaned each of them $500 on Monday. This is in addition to $200 I gave J to handle the household transfers because I didn’t have the time or energy after work. I have some spending money left, but obviously it’s gonna be quite a bit tighter than it would’ve been otherwise!

So all in all it’s been a rather hectic week.

I’ve been telling J for a few weeks now that I haven’t planned anything specific for our anniversary and he should tell me if there’s something he wants to do. Crickets, y’all. He has no ideas.

I reminded him of this last night and asked if he minded spending our anniversary building a couch fort and ordering in, my treat, while we watch our favorite mutual show for our anniversary given all the nonsense that’s gone on this week.

He was totally offended and hurt by this suggestion. He keeps going off about how much 3 years means and he just wanted to see what effort I would put into our anniversary.

I was shook. Excuse me? We’re not the over the top romantic gestures couple. Never have been.

To be fair, this is his longest relationship (not mine) and so he feels 3 years is a kind of milestone for him.

Obviously we fought.

His side: I said I’d cover our anniversary and came up short.

My side: It’s been a crazy busy month and I don’t think having some quiet quality time together sounds like a bad way to spend our anniversary.

All in all did I screw the pooch on this one guys?

And if I did, how do I fix it?