So my fiancé and I make two years next month. I’m 19 and he’s 22. I really hate my abusive household and I want to leave as soon as possible, whereas he was raised to always be around family. In his household lives him, his mother, his father, his sister (30), his brother-in-law, and his baby nephew who is two. He is very comfortable in his own house, as he should be, but at what point do you decide that you want your own place?

Apparently his sister is moving out with her husband and obviously their baby this summer. Him and his parents are finding a new place to live as well and he would like me to move in with them. I would rather him and I live alone. He’s a HUGE mamas boy and I feel like he’s not ready to leave because of her. I do have a good relationship with his parents but I’m also just very shy around older people so I feel like I wouldn’t be 100% myself in my own house. It’s also because my mother says things like “they’ll never truly accept you”, “they might like you but that doesn’t mean they want you there 24/7”, and “you always want to be in the way, they’re ganna get tired of you”. She’s extremely pessimistic because of her failed marriage. We have more than enough money to move out on our own and provide for ourselves so that’s not the issue.

We’re also planning to try for a baby at the end of the year. His parents love being around everyday to see their nephew so they will definitely be happy about another baby but I don’t know. I just want my own space. Should I just say yes and move in when they find the new place or should I insist on getting our own place?