Post Partum Sex Questions

Hello ladies, I hope you all had a nice Easter weekend in spite of what is happening now in the world .

I have a question regarding post partum sex. I am a first time mom. I am now 10 weeks post partum. Still breastfeeding most of the time although she is sleeping through the night now.

My issue is my husband. He wants sex real bad now. We have not had any since the baby came. Probably now about 3 to 4 months as I had a rough last several weeks of pregnancy and we did not engage in any sex.

But now he wants it and now! I am still not ready for it. I know it is going to hurt like hell as I am very dry down there right now. And since I am breastfeeding I just don't want him touching, fondling and kissing on my boobs just yet. It feels a little weird to me on that part right now. I also want to keep feeding for as long as she wants to. I just love this part of being a Mom!

Don't get me wrong I like sex and always enjoy it but at the moment I really do not have any sex drive. Is that normal at this point of post partum? I am tired and worn every night.

I have tried to satisfy him with a few BJ'S and it worked for a while but now he wants all of it as he keeps telling me

So I am not sure how to handle this? I know I will need a lot of lube, KY, for this and it will hurt so I am not looking forward to it and it is putting me off big time.

I know he will not want to use any protection like a condom and I am not back on any birth control yet. My period has not started back up yet, so I don't think I could get pregnant again, God forbid that is the last thing I need happening but the thought of all this also turns me off right now as well.

So how does one handle this? I want to be a good wife and partner and do my best to please him, but I am really not there yet. And I am not looking forward to the hurt down there and that turns me off as well too.

How do all you other first time Moms handle this question? Should I just give in grit my teeth literally and bare it all? I need some advice on this, not sure I want to bring this subject up to my Mother for her input! She would probably tell me to just do it and be happy! Anyone have any advice on this? If not thanks for listening.