This is an unplanned pregnancy, and at a really hectic time in my personal life. I've never been pregnant before either.

I really want to ask her about her pregnancies, I know her and my aunt had miscarriages before they had their first kids, and if I remember correctly my aunt's was pretty far along. But I was about 3 or 4 so I don't know for sure. I just have so many questions and want to hear what she has to say about pregnancy and have her support.

However, my mom has recently found out about my partner and I, and she is none too thrilled about him or the situation.

She has said that she wants to tell me to leave and come home, but she knows she can't because I'm an adult making my own choices. I know she's worried about me. But I'm happy and I'm being authentic to myself.

I want to ask her to put her feelings about my partner and relationship aside to help me with this, but I really don't feel like that's something I'm allowed to do.

Especially since the last couple of long phone calls we've had included her telling me basically "be careful not to get pregnant" in several different paraphrases thereof.

I don't feel like I can talk to her about the pregnancy until I know for sure I want to go through with it and until I can be very confident and sure that this is what I want, to reassure her that I'm happy and making my own choices. But I really need Her reassurance.

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[[ Situation that my mom's not thrilled about being, I'm going through/almost through a divorce, initiated in January. I was married for about 2 years, in the relationship for 11.

I'm polyamorous. It's not the reason for the divorce, but my mom can't exactly grasp that.

My current partner and I have been together about 4 years now. He is also married. I live with him and his wife.

I didn't expect my mom to instantly understand or anything, but it's been harder than I expected it to be. ]]