Anal play?

lacy • Im 20 years old. Baby #2 comming soon

Ladies ive never done anal stuff really b4 ive tried to but im scared lol not gonna lie... How do yall get over the fear of pain? How did ur 1st time go? What lube do yall use? How do yall relax enough for it not to hurt? My boyfriend keeps mentioning it that he would like to do it.. Im game for it but scared...