Hello ladies!

I try to not get so worked up over everything but I’m pregnant and my hormones are raging right now and I need to vent to people who don’t me right now.

Long story short my MIL has ALWAYS been a issue. Since before my husband and I started dating( we lived in the same street growing up) . My husband knows his mother is psycho and had never gone against me to defend her. She has made so many poor choices that have greatly affected all of her children.

Anyways fast forward to two nights ago when his mom text him saying that she will be driving out here. We live a different state over (about a 6 hour drive). I’m currently pregnant with our second child and we have a 20 month old son. With everything going on we have had to cancel plans of other parents and friends coming to see us. My husband did not send a rude txt just stated that we understand she wants to come see us but we do not want to risk anything and so at this time we have to say no . She knows I’m pregnant and obviously knows her grandson . That wasn’t brought up in the txt my husband sent because well it shouldn’t need to be .

She sent back a txt saying this

Don’t get us wrong we are not people who just don’t give a shit BUT she has a huge track record for maki big everything about herself no matter what . If it some how doesn’t revolve around her then it doesn’t matter . If what she is saying is true of course that sucks and don’t wish that upon anyone (my husband isn’t sure if he believes she has what she says she has due to history). But regardless of the bad news she could call and speak to her son over the phone and tell him? Right ? I get it’s something she wants to talk about in person but literally this is the Only we have said no to her coming out.

Also to add to this long my grandma still lives in the same neighborhood as her so they talk every once in a great while but my grandma tries to avoid her at all costs lol. But I talked to my grandma this morning and I guess they had talked about us and the new baby coming and my grandma has said that she said that her plan was to Conley come out for the day and leave that night. Also that she was going to be bringing his older and younger sister with her to visit (NEVER mentioned at all). She said that “her son said no to her coming

out but she didn’t ask she was telling us she was so it wasnt a question”.........I’m ok lady ??? . I guess there was also talk about how we were gonna Handel two kids and who was gonna watch our son (we have it handled, we are adults 🙄) when we were in the hospital. She is his mom and I will always respect her as such but this is OUR family and OUR life . My husband says he doesn’t care about his mother and never wants her around but out of respect I have let her in because I would want to be in her shoes when I eventually have my kids married but she has given me a perfect example of the what not to be as far as being a mom or woman . My husband always makes a bye deal about how much he can’t stand his mother and all that she has done to him and family growing up , to me etc. but when it comes to dealing with her he doesn’t do anything . He either just ignores her or is she is in the same vicinity walks away and I’m stuck with her 😑😑.

I’m at my Whitt’s end with this lady . I know what I married into but I married my husband not his family meaning that regardless of who they are I love him and that’s all that matters .

I just don’t know what to do and maybe I’m just a bad wife or daughter in law ? Idk. How would you handle it ? I tell my husband how I feel all the time and he just says don’t talk to her and ignore it.