Alright, so my boyfriend and I have an AMAZING relationship. In fact, he wants to give me a baby in the months to come. Specifically in July. I am fine with this. But what kind of bothers me....is this....

How are you going to want to have a baby with me, now, but you want to wait to get married for a few more years?

I guess it bothers me because it's so backwards. I want to get married first. It really doesn't make sense to me. I know that thousands of other people just have kids and marriage is not something everybody wants or does, kids or not. But I'm not those people. I want a family. And to me, marriage should come, then kids, that's how I want to do it.

Am I wrong for feeling this way? I understand that it's his life too, but these choices that he is/will make(ing) affects my life too, if this is a "team" effort, then I feel he should consider my feelings too. Obviously I know he doesn't have to by any means...

I don't know ladies...every time I feel any kind of way that conflicts with others feelings it makes me feel selfish, like I don't have any right to feel how i feel ever. But I never try to force my feelings or views on anyone else, especially my partner....

Am I selfish for feeling like this?

Would it be selfish/rude for me to talk to him about this?

Please no rude comments, thank you all so much