So a little back story about my husbands family: he is not close with them whatsoever. During my pregnancy, his parents never bothered to ask how I was feeling, how the baby is, literally anything. His mother bullied me my entire pregnancy because I had made a comment about not wanting anyone kissing my son when he arrived, she called me a bunch of names for it and practically told me I was going to keep my child in a bubble because I didn’t want him exposed to other peoples germs while he has no immune system yet (can we now see how important and ironic it is to keep a newborn safe from viruses 🙄). Since my son was born during this pandemic I’ve only had both of our parents meet him once, and unfortunately cases got very high in my state so we haven’t been around anyone since. When his dad came to see the baby, we asked beforehand that he not smell like cigarettes. He said “don’t worry i won’t”, but came over REEKING of cigarette, and then argued with me over washing his hands before touching my son. (like HELLO! the whole country is washing their hands millions of times but you can’t?) His father has very poor hygiene and his house is disgusting. His parents haven’t bothered to ask how we’re doing more than once in the past month. They post all over facebook about missing their grandson & how in love they are but i really feel like it’s just a front. How can you miss & love him so much but never bother to check on him? Whereas my family is the complete opposite; they ask to facetime us everyday to see the baby, bring us groceries, spent their time quarantined building a nursery in their home for when we can see eachother again. Anyways.. am i wrong for not wanting to continue much of a relationship with them after quarantine? I don’t feel like any child deserves a one sided relationship with their grandparents, and myself nor my husband are not the type of people who will call them up and ASK them to come over to see the baby. Nor do we really trust either of them to ever babysit (my husband has some upsetting stories about things they have done when he was a child) I’m already struggling with anxiety over not knowing when it’ll actually be safe for my son to be around people because of this virus. His dad made a comment on facebook about being able to see the baby May 1st (when america is supposed to reopen🙄) but like.. i’m not comfortable with that just yet, and shouldn’t you check with the child’s parents before assuming something like that? Idk. I guess i just need some insight on how you ladies would go about this relationship.