I feel such a B for asking this but I’m becoming less attracted to my husband. He has gained a lot of weight and I don’t know what to do. He use to be more active whether it was go to the gym or go on a hike with me, but now he refuses to go on hikes anymore and hasn’t gone to the gym in a couple years (doesn’t want to join a new gym either). Obviously looks aren’t everything and I love him for who he is more but I don’t want to see him gain more weight and not live a healthier lifestyle. I’ve tried encouraging him by saying we need to be more healthy and I’ll invite him to walk the dogs. Ive tried cooking more healthy options and have even set up a home gym. I know that he has to do it himself and find the motivation to do it, but he complains about how he looks all the time. I, as a partner, don’t know what to do or say or how to be helpful. We want kids in the next couple years and I want us to both be healthy and in good shape.