Feeling unwanted

My sister & I moved 1,500 miles away from where we grew up 3 years ago. This had been a long time coming & everyone knew as soon as we got the chance we were getting the hell of our dodge so it’s not like it was sudden. THREE years ago. That was the last time either of us saw our mom in person. Given we didn’t really have the best relationship to begin with but... anyway... In those 3 years I’ve had 2 children, one of which was born 2 weeks ago, & she’s never met either of them. My sister, me, our husbands, my moms friends, my best friend, literally everyone has offered to pay for my mom to come down to visit so she can see my sisters 4 kids & my own kids. My sister offered to drive up there to pick her up & then drive her back home. She always finds every excuse in the book to not follow through with the plans. BUT she has zero issues going to her boyfriends house 2.5 hours away from her house almost every weekend. She gets someone to watch the dog then, she gets time off work then, she has the money then (even though we’ve literally told her she doesn’t have to spend a dime - my sister & I will cover travel expenses so money has never actually been an issue). I’m so tired of feeling like my sister, our kids & myself don’t matter. Unfortunately her boyfriends have always come first & that’s why we never really had the best relationship to begin with so I don’t know why I thought she would’ve changed.

I know we could just go to her but thats how it’s always been. We want her to put the effort in this time instead of my sister & I always having to. She’s never once started anything with us except drama. We’ve always had to go to her & say “hey let’s do something together”

Feeling like your own mom doesn’t even want you sucks.