Pregnant widow- he got another girl pregnant ???

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Ive posted on here before explaining how my fiance was killed on his way home in November. I was five weeks pregnant when he passed, and had just found out two days before it all happened. We already had a 3 almost 4 year old daughter together and I was devastated. I never saw it coming. He was just on his way home that night, and next thing I knew he was gone. 
We were high school sweethearts and he was the first boyfriend i ever had. He was my first everything, and my best friend. Losing him was something I never saw coming. Especially not when I was pregnant. I felt so special to have a last part of him growing inside me. Like it was meant to be in some weird way. We had lost a daughter before at 23 weeks and when I found out I was pregnant again he told me it was the daughter we lost coming back to us. Well sure enough I am pregnant with a girl. Im due in July . 
BUT turns out he was cheating on me for some months before he passed. The kicker is, it’s a girl we both knew. A girl in our friend circle. Not someone I was close to but she was close to the people I was, and I spoke to her many times. I noticed that after he passed she went to the scene where it happened that night. But all of our friends did to light candles so I didnt think much of it. Then she kind of went ghost. I didn’t see her social media pages anymore even though  I had her as a friend on a couple sites like Instagram and snapchat and Facebook. Last week her new page popped up and i saw she was pregnant. She’s claiming it’s his. I dont know what to think or do. 
Im shocked. I feel broken all over again. She says it was going on for a couple months on and off . What makes it worse is that she admits that she doesn’t think he had feelings for her, and that after a little he cut contact with her and she became jealous and would seek him out. Until eventually it started again. 
Maybe if I knew he loved her I could understand it. But to hear it was just physical makes me sick. Especially because it’s not like we werent doing anything like that in that time. Our sex life was very healthy obviously. Im just so hurt. Idk what to do. Im so lost. Im angry at him and it sickens me that his memory is tainted by this now. I thought he was my love. I thought he was my everything. Well at least he was, but i wasnt for him. I just feel so played. I know i cant do anything now, he’s gone. I should just let it go. But i cant, and that makes me feel more ridiculous

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Does she have any proof?  Claiming the baby us the child of someone who died is a quick paycheck. She could be claiming it’s his for the social check. Either way, unless she proves they had something going on, I wouldn’t concern myself with her.

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People make mistakes. If he wanted to leave you he would’ve. If he didn’t love you, you would’ve known it. It’s unfortunate that he’s not here to comfort you and tell you these things himself. None of this makes him a bad person, it only makes him human. 
My prayer is that you receive the comfort you you need right now in this minute. That you’re able to remember him and not let what he did months before his passing taint your YEARS of memory of him. I pray that your mind settles and you’re able to let go of these things that you can’t change or control. 
Let’s think about what you can do:
1. You can continue to be a strong mother for your children. They need you now more than ever. 
2.  When the time comes you can be that strong woman that ensures her children know their younger brother or sister. Y’all can determine the paternity of her child through your children if that type of thing is important to you. 
3.  You can ensure that all of his kids know the kind of man we was. All three of these children are all going to grow up without a father and since they’re so young, they probably won’t remember him but they will remember what you tell them about him. 
I’m probably 20+ years older than you and I can tell you that the pain you’re feeling from his betrayal will lessen especially if you have children to focus on. My father got another woman pregnant five months after he got my mother pregnant so I have a sister five months younger than me. Her mother lived down the street from my mother and they knew each other. My parents got married and my sister lived with her mother in another state but my Mom made for damn sure we didn’t lose contact. At Easter my Mom would buy two dresses and send one to my sister. In the summertime we were sent down South to our grandparents and that’s when we got to really be together and bond. She had a younger sister, but Crystal (my sister’s name) was the only sibling I had. We will soon be pushing 50 and we are still so very close and it doesn’t matter what happened with my dad cheating anymore. My parents never had anymore children so I’m glad I have Crystal as my sister and I don’t care about the circumstances of how she got here. 
I’m sorry to have gone on and on and on on your post. If there’s anything I can do to help you or if you just want to talk, please don’t hesitate to message me.

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I’m so sorry! I read your previous post, so to read this is just awful. I guess you will never really get the closure you need. I would suggest perhaps talking to a professional. They might be able to give you the healing that you need. Sending my love xx

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I’m so so sorry 😔

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Im so sorry for your losses.
What a horrible thing to go through

Pregnant widow- he got another girl pregnant ???

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