keeping it completely honest here- quarantining with your partner ain’t easy.

I never realized how little I used to see my husband until he was home every day- all day! My days used to consist of waking up home alone- with just the baby, free to do whatever and not have to make breakfast or lunches.

Lately, I wake up to having my husband home. Although I loveee having him home- it’s been an adjustment. My husband is still working full time (from home) as he’s an essential worker 😉

and his day consists of conference calls and meetings around the clock. What does this mean for me? I have to pick and choose where me and Aura can play. I can’t give her pots and pans to play with and I have to really try hard to keep her quiet or move to another room in the house. This has been limiting me lately and I’ve started to feel the changes.

Aside from all that- I feel obligated to make breakfast and lunches for my husband. When he was at work all day- I would eat a block of cheese and call it lunch 😜. I guess it’s safe to say that my days have gotten more busier than usual.

Being around each other 24/7 without a breather- has had us bickering and arguing a lot more than before. Our patience runs a lot thinner with each other and we find it hard to be in each other’s face 24/7. When you throw a baby into that mix- it’s a recipe for disaster. However- luckily we have been figuring out a system that works for us. We highlighted that having personal space and time is important for the both of us (sans baby). Our new system has helped us become happier individually as people and collectively as a family.

We both agreed to give eachother time apart to do whatever we wanted. My husband uses this time mainly to work out. I use that time to either take a cat nap or catch up on some tv time. These moments apart are what really recharge and refuel us. We also have figured out a routine with aura which splits up the tasks for us. At the end of the day, it leaves us a good 2-3 hours to spend time alone together.

So please don’t let social media fool you. Not every couple is building jigsaw puzzles, cooking meals together and cuddling and snuggling up afterwards. That is far from reality- at least our reality. My husband and I are not having a staycation over here but we are finding pockets of time together that we do enjoy.

How are you finding it quarantining with your partner?