So I have always had a rocky relationship with my in-laws. They’re the kind of family that gets together for every occasion. And I’m a home body so this is a challenge for me. I had a miscarriage last year and stayed home a lot due to depression. They ended up starting a huge fight with me and saying that the depression wasn’t a good excuse and I was ruining their family. Long story short, I tried to talk things out with them and have tried to go to every event they have, which is a lot. I am now pregnant so I also am trying to get more comfortable being around them for when baby comes. Well anyways the first weekend in June is my birthday and anniversary weekend. We will be taking off work for the weekend. Anyways they asked me multiple times what we were doing and I said we will probably do something for anniversary but I wasn’t sure yet(hard to make plans around corona). It’s my brother-in-laws 30th bday so that’s a big one for him. Well they decided to have a birthday party celebrating mainly his birthday along with mine and my other brother in laws who has a June birthday. I always feel so uncomfortable at these get togethers, my husband ends up walking off and I end up alone staring at the ceiling. I’ll usually push myself but I’m literally throwing a fit. I want to celebrate my birthday and anniversary with my husband and if we go to the party we won’t be able to do anything else for lack of time. I’d say it would be one thing if we could just stop in but they never respect when we have to leave. I really don’t want to go but don’t feel like dealing with the backlash I get. It’s also causing issues between my husband and I. Am I wrong for wanting to go away for the weekend and do something for our anniversary? Am I being spoiled?