What should I do? Babys name leads to arguments

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Long post sorry
So I'm due in November with our 2nd boy. This is my 2nd child but his dads 3rd ( our 2 together and his 16 year old daughter) we've been talking about names since I'm already 16 weeks. Well when I was pregnant with my 1st son we agreed if he names him then I get to name the next one no matter what. He promised I could because he named his daughter and our son. Well now that the time has come hes decided hes picking the name or I have to pick a type of name he likes. I can't pick anything unless it starts with the letter C and it has to be so unique that no one has every heard of it before. I want a simple name like Uriah or  Christian. He wants names like Cheveyo,  Ceyone, Canice, Caligula ect....
Well my family thinks I should just name him what I want no matter what the father says. So tonight we got in to it so bad over the names that I felt like this wasnt my baby. I told him he can name him what he wants but he has to raise him by himself with no help and I'll take our 1st son. I know it was wrong to say as both of these boys are such huge blessings but I'm tired. I'm just so so tired. I always thought about being a mom and what I would name my baby but that's been taken away from me. If I don't name him what his dad wants he will not have anything to do with him. I don't want to hear I should leave and all that because that doesnt solve my problem that just adds to it.

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Is he aware of who Caligula was? I don’t think Uriah is that common. I would keep working until you guys come to an agreement.

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I’m so sorry you are fighting about this, it should be fun! We have 2 kids with C names + the dog so we have mutually committed to it. These aren’t quite as unique as the ones your husband is liking lol but here are my boy options. Hope this helps!
Cade
Clarke 
Chesa 
Colby
Connor
Callum
Cullen
Cooper
Cole
Crew
Collin
Carter
Colson

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That’s unfair! He told you you could name your 2nd, but he’s changed his mind? I think picking a baby name is something both should agree with. He’s being a little too controlling about a name. My boyfriend says moms should pick the names because the kids take their last name anyway. At the end of the day, you both have to agree on a name. It’s YOUR baby too, you’re baking this baby for 9 months, you deserve to have the freedom to name him what you’d like 😤

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Your problem is an agreement was come to and now he's going back on that. That's how I would frame it. He named two children and agreed you would name the third. The discussion has been had and agreed to. He doesn't get to not be a father because he's decided to be petty.

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I obviously don’t know much about your relationship but it sounds like a really unhealthy relationship.. I would tell him to do one!!

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He is not being fair on you or your children. But this is what me and my partner did. We each wrote three names down, we crossed off 1 each that we both obviously didn't like and worked from there. IIt was helpful to also say the full name out loud because you see if it flows.This might not work, as your husband does seem to be unmoving on the issue but at least it's an attempt to try and choose together. A person opinion on unique names, my name is spelt very differently to how it sounds and I hated it until I was an adult. It was hard to learn to spell and teachers never said it write some had me learning the wrong way to spell it. I had awards with my name spelt wrong, it was awful.

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Ohmygod!!! This is exactly what I'm going through!! He named our other 2 children right..bcuz he says I didnt have a name for them blahnik blahnik blah. When that wasnt true. He didnt like the names I chose. So we found out we were having our 3rd girl. He wants to name her Chariot! And when I told him I didnt like it, he tells me it's the only name HE wants. So I said well it's my turn to name her. Then he tells me if I chose a name he doesn't like there is no guarantee he will call her by that name. Like wtf!! I dont want Chariot for our lil girl!

What should I do? Babys name leads to arguments

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