Are grandparents visiting infants now?

I’m on the fence about grandparents visiting my 5 month old, but they are constantly asking to visit. These are my husband’s parents and I’ve allowed them to come visit twice since social distancing measures have been set in place in New York for their mental health.

They’ve assured me that they have properly quarantining. I did find out that my husband’s dad has gone golfing and that his mother has gone out to buy a Pilates machine off Craigslist - both of which I don’t seem essential. But I let it go because it meant a lot to my husband to see them.

Yesterday, I found out that they had their hairdresser come to their home and got their haircut and colored. They also asked the day before to come visit again and assured me that have been distancing themselves. At this point, I feel so utterly conflicted and frustrated. Getting your haircut is the opposite of social distancing and far from essential. I have a lot of doctor friends who are imploring us to stay home. Yet I see my in-laws acting as if they are the exception to the rule, and also pressuring my husband and I to visit our home with our 5 month old.

I’m not sure how to go about expressing my thoughts. And most importantly, to get them to take this SERIOUSLY.

Any advice?