Calm parenting š©
How do you guys stay calm when youāre upset with your kids or they do something they arenāt supposed to or that irritates you? I have a 12 and 13 year old and itās been ROUGH. I have never yelled at them, just spoken sternly if they arenāt listening. But I swear i repeat myself over things that are pure common sense. Theyāve done the same ONE chore a day for an entire year now and still manage to forget. And they know they donāt get allowance if they forget. Lately I feel like Iāve been so overwhelmed I just snap all the time. I try SO hard to do family things together and keep a happy household, but Iām at a breaking point. Iāve begged my husband to help more. Itās a classic āgood cop bad copā situation every time they do something. He only gets onto them when he wants to, specifically our son whoās 13 1/2. He acts like our daughter can do no wrong and itās clear how differently he treats them sometimes. Weāve had talks CONSTANTLY about this. He tries and it gets better but then it goes back to normal. Iām exhausted. Iām 34 weeks pregnant and my hormones are getting the best of me. I feel like the worst mom in the world. I know this pandemic has affected them and thatās a big reason why theyāre acting out, but itās affected me too. We have talks with them often and keep open communication fairly well, better than I was with my parents at that age. I feel like Iāve done all I can. They have sooo much to do here, literally there is nothing I could add on besides friends physically coming over which we arenāt doing. We still go to parks and live on a lake so they go outside a lot. Their cousin lives next door and theyāre allowed to see her. Itās just constant attitude or attention seeking behavior. I just feel lost.
@ š We both work from home. I have a flexible schedule and he works 7-3. I will say weekends are a lot easier when heās off. I make him do majority of the grounding because they just listen better to him, however heās awful at consistency. If they get grounded for something once, they do it again and he blows it off so they donāt learn. I just feel like a huge nag when itās always me doing it.