Anyone else feel this way?

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I don't want to sound ungrateful because I thank God everyday for this healthy baby girl. I'm half way through this pregnancy and I'm grieving because nothing has been the usual. I thought I would see my mother and spend more time with her. I thought she wouldn't have to be afraid to be around me due to her job and this virus. I thought I would celebrate with my family and my husband's family and go shopping at thrift stores and baby shopping all over. Now there's a fear of going into any public place. And work would be a safer place to me. And there could actually be a baby shower being planned. Sorry for the venting. We are a military family and saw our family quite often but not the last few months. I wouldn't have waited this long if I wasn't so worried for this little one's safety. I want her to stay safe and not put her in any risk. Today I visited my work since I left two months ago and it's got me thinking about a lot. Anyone else out there feeling this way?
Ps I know there are people going through so much more. Just looking for support and someone who relates. Thanks

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I feel the same way, I want to go and be with my family but one person from every household works in the healthcare field so I stay away. I’m in the dental field and my doctor doesn’t feel safe with me going back because we do not have the proper PPE and are at the highest risk for contracting it through the respiratory aerosols we create. So I haven’t worked in 10 weeks and won’t until after she arrives, and I’m only 23 weeks. It’s taking a toll on me and I hate that if I order stuff for her it has to be online and I don’t really have a chance to look at things. I’ve gone to a few store and worn a mask but I’m Illinois everything has been shut pretty much. And the baby shower thing is really getting to me, it’s supposed to be a chance for everyone to celebrate and if I have one it will have to be a drive by one. And also my husband not being able to go to ultrasounds. This is my first pregnancy and I feel like a lot has been taken away. I’m so grateful she’s healthy though and so am I

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I’m in the same boat. I’m 22 weeks and feel the same way. I miss being able to see my friends and family and share my pregnancy with them. Instead it’s just me holes up at home trying to figure out what baby items I like best online.

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Feeling the same way. It’s my first and I just feel like I envisioned this so differently. I dreamt of a pregnancy filled with family and friends and happiness and can’t help but grieve the loss of that. Most days I feel okay and others I can’t help but cry. You’re not alone.

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Hi! I’m 23 weeks today and have nearly been self isolating in the U.K. for 3 months now. It’s not an ideal situation or how I imagined my first pregnancy. I’m not really a girly girl and didn’t want a baby shower but what I did want to do is have a BBQ with my family to celebrate being pregnant as well as celebrate other people birthdays at the same time. I’m incredibly close to my mum and my nan. My mum works with covid patients so she is a high risk for me which at times can be frustrating. My partner and I have had to buy what we can online and are trying to make the best out of the situation. However, I would love to be able to walk around shops etc and have that experience. I’ve attended my appointment and scans on my own and the 20 week one was kind of scary because i couldn’t see the woman’s face or her expressions. She spent a long time looking at my baby’s brain but it all turned out to be ok. My partners family live miles away and by the time i have this baby they probably wouldn’t have seen me pregnant at all. The only people in my family who have really tried to still make an effort and be involved in the pregnancy are my mum and nan. Its basically an experience my partner and I are going through on our own together at the moment. I have no antenatal classes, can’t visit the hospital I’ll be giving birth in so I basically just feel like I’m going to have to wing everything and not know what I’m doing about anything and everything. However, the situation has some positives. It’s given us a chance to really think about the baby, the things we need and spend some time together before - even though we can’t really do anything. I go through phases of how you are feeling in your post but then I just tell myself to get over myself and remind myself our health is the only thing that matters. It’s a unique situation, a story for the future and thinking positively... in 5 years time this isn’t going to matter to us. Or better still, when we hold our babies in our arms. Wishing you all the best x

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This is my last baby and although we are enjoying time at home, we are missing family.  My husband and kids haven’t been allowed to US appointments and no videos.  Probably no shower and no fun summer parties/BBQs. 😢  I feel somewhat cheated and sad we cannot enjoy normalcy.  I guess my one positive is that we’ve all be healthy and no one sick!

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I completely agree! I’m kind of an introvert anyway so needing the people interaction hasn’t affected me as much but I do still want some kind of normalcy. I want to go to the stores and touch things and see things before I buy them. I want to create a regular registry like normal. I want a baby shower. The biggest thing though, I want to be able to have my husband at the ultrasounds and appointments with me. This is our first and it’s completely not what I had envisioned. Glad baby and myself are healthy, but can’t wait for things to get back to normal. Staying positive and still praying for everyone out there. Love you all, mamas. We are strong and we will get through this!

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