CLINGY IN LAWS

Hey all. Just wondering if anyone might have some advice for me on how to deal with clingy and needy in-laws. My husbands mom and grandma guilt my husband and text him every 2 hours trying to convince us to go see them even though we don’t want to because of Covid. We want me and the baby to be safe so we have limited contact with family. We each only saw our respective moms and dads on Mother’s Day for like an hour and stayed 6 feet apart.

Anyway, my husband thinks that telling them were pregnant (13 weeks 5 days today) will force them to back off because they will realize why we are trying to be so safe. I don’t really think that will change their behaviour at all, his mom and nana and just so needy and clingy. He’s 37, we haven’t seen them in 10 weeks except for Mother’s Day but we call and FaceTime and text all the time. I just feel this behaviour is becoming a bigger issue and it’s making me worried about how their behaviour will impact us when the baby arrives.

I have asked my husband to set clear boundaries, like when covid is over we only have dinner with them once a month instead of once a week. We always see them for birthdays and milestones etc. They just want to monopolize our time and always hang out and it’s not fun for us. I’m concerned it’s going to affect my and my husbands relationship long term

Any advice on clingy and needy and guilt tripping in laws?