In law trouble

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Currently overwhelmed leaving my 2 year old daughter in the care of my in laws while I give birth. Due to COVID19 only my husband will be allowed to be present during the birth and he will not be able to come and go from the hospital. My daughter will need care while we are there so that he won’t miss the birth. Unfortunately my family is unavailable (age, health, moves) so my in law will come to keep our daughter. We just moved to a new duty station being a military family so we don’t know anyone here. My daughter has celiac disease which is a serious food allergy which they completely ignore as if I made it and always feed her something that causes her to gave a reaction. They completely disregard me saying no simply because they think it’s not fair she can’t have what everyone else can. I’m so worried that I will come home and my daughter is covered in hives and in pain. Also my OB said anyone who comes to visit must quarantine in a separate room for 14 day to make sure they don’t pick up the virus during travel. My MIL refuses. Also they are bring my husband’s 6month old niece and 9year old nephew. I specifically requested no child come along because I don’t feel comfortable having many people around postpartum and especially around the baby. I’m completely overwhelmed. I want to just break down. This is not how I planned my delivery would go and I’m terrified leaving my daughter with them. They simply don’t respect me but I’m doing this so my husband won’t miss the birth of his first son.