Is it normal to want rough bdsm kind of sex after being brutally raped months ago? I feel like something is wrong with me now.

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Your body and mind is probably trying to relive the situation where you have more control. Subsequently it’s a way of dealing with it.

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I'm not a psychologist but you might be looking for control and the power to say no.
It's really common people in the bdsm community experienced sexual abuse at some point. You're not alone. Therapy would be good but you are not damaged goods. You are someone who survived.

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Not at all. I was sexually assaulted on two different occasions before I was even a teenager. One of them hit me and the sexual assault went on for weeks with him. He also attempted to rape me. I now have a rape kink and want it a bit rougher. And you know what? that’s perfectly fine. it’s fine to explore too, just make sure you’re with a good partner and have a safe word. There’s nothing wrong with you. I felt that way too until I came on here and asked this same question. I always felt like there was something wrong with me, like I was broken and horrible for wanting that, but it turns out that it’s perfectly normal.

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I had a lot of sexual abuse as a child. Ive also been through therapy and still want bdsm type stuff. There are a few things I'm not ok with.

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Some people find that they regain their senses of power, control, and consent by participating in stuff like BDSM that is highly consent-based when done right.

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Was therapy for me in a very sick twisted way.  Only what I allowed happened

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Yes its normal. Just make are you really are ready for it and that your partner knows your safe word.

Is it normal to want rough bdsm kind of sex after being brutally raped months ago? I feel like something is wrong with me now.

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