My father is trying to sabotage my marriage! UPDATE

My father abandoned I, my mother and siblings when I was 10 years old(I am 30 now)... all my life, my father did not care about us. He did not contribute a penny to my siblings and I... if you ask my father when my birthday is, he does not know. My father does not know when our birthdays are and have never wished us a happy birthday... he does not know anything about us! He does not know how we are faring... nothing! l am of African heritage... my father left us in the US to travel back to Africa to enjoy his wealth. He had a lot of money which he spent on women and everyone else, but nothing on us. That’s fine... my mother took on 3 jobs to look after my siblings and I... As I am typing this and remembering everything that my mother did for us and the sacrifices that she made, I just can’t help but to cry.

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Fast forward, my father has stupidly finished all his money and is literally broke now. I have been married for 3 years now with a child. My father has not for once called me just to say “how are you?” Or “how is your daughter”... I have a strong Christian faith, so I believe in honouring your parents... I have kept this by still honouring and respecting my father even though he does not deserve any respect from us. All my father does is send me messages to ask me to send money to him. Guess what? I always stupidly do! He does not deserve a penny from me, but I still feel sorry for him and send him money all the time.

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What does my father do with the money that I send? He gets drunk and acts up on the streets. After finishing all the money that I send on alcohol, a few days later he would message me again to ask for more. His messages are always straight to the point and goes like this “I need money. I have no food to eat”

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I got fed up and stopped sending him money. Now guess what he is trying to do? Sabotage my marriage! My father would call my husband to tell him awful and untrue things about myself and my mother... just to paint my mother and myself negatively in my husband’s mind. He keeps making up all these lies about my mother, my siblings and I... I am really fed up! How long can I keep honouring a wicked and undeserving father?

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UPDATE

I have cut my father off, stopped sending him any money and stopped talking to him. I also told my husband to please stop picking up his calls. My husband does not seem to be respecting my wishes and keeps convincing to talk to my father, even though I have expressed my wishes not to. My husband is supposed to be on my side on this matter, but he does not appear to be and keeps telling me to speak to my father.