TMI but iso

TMI alright ladies with a fat coochie. So when I shave right above where the clitories is, is like raw from shaving when my hair starts to grow back it’s stubby and my panties rub it raw. What can I put down there for it not do to do or to feel relief. That’s the main reason I hate shaving. When it starts getting stubby. Once you shave it’s hard not to keep doing so 😫 please help