I left when pregnant because I was emotionally abused by my ex. I live in the UK and he lives in the US.

He flew to see the birth but said messed up things like it there are complications he would chose me to die, he would say I was a one night stand to the midwife if she comments on us being a beautiful family and he wouldnt hold me hand or comfort me.

I gave him loads of chances to redeem himself and not to just be bitter or mess up mine and our child's future with his bad ways.

He would say he wants a tattoo of our sons foot so I sent him a picture of the print and he hasn't done it. He didn't pay child support for 3 years and lied to his family saying he did. He said he wouldn't make his first family work which is us but would rather put that effort in his second family.

Out child is now nearly 4 and my ex husband who we aren't legally divorced yet hasn't seen him yet. He only answers the phone every now and again literally once even 2 weeks and never calls first.

He has a girlfriend who is a mother to two girls who are 7 and 5 and he is always with them, acting like their father figure even when they have a father in their life.

He has said before that his girlfriends family isn't his because they have a dad but actions do speak louder than words because he never interacts with our son when we are on the phone. He never reads messages or sends any videos to him or ask if he's okay or how he's progressing.

I'm worried it's somehow my fault that he's like this that I was being careful about his intentions before anything happened.

He generally doesn't care for us and has in the past basically said he would try to get custody but that was 2 Years ago and now I've given him the option to be a father figure he's no where to be found it seems.

It's a big mess. What do I do?

I've told him I'm going to wait for him to ring us now as he's always busy with his "family"

I call his family members and they all say how beautiful I am and think I look like a model and say how lovely I am and how I seem perfect and be knows this and they generally get angry at how he's being and treating us and everything saying he must be crazy and they say I'm a million times better than his new girlfriend and that they don't approve of his new lover