Don’t know where we stand 😓

Me and this guy started talking march of last year we ended up hanging out a couple times with his friends (very fun every time) and kinda kept it as an off and on thing. They call me his girl and he acts like we are together. For example he hold my hand, hugs me and gives me kisses at the appropriate time. Always giving me my place and respects me. He makes sure anything we do or he does im comfortable with. However the times we do hang out it’s like every other month and we don’t text every day but we are always letting each other know we miss each other and compliment each other. One time i was drunk and i’m not the type to question people. So i ended up arguing w him bc we were supposed to hang out and he texted me too late and i wasn’t gonna go at whatever time he wants. So basically i was telling him that he didn’t care and that he can’t just be doing that and he told me he wanted to take me serious but that he wants to go slow about it. I woke up that next morning and realized i wasn’t ready so i told him i didn’t want a relationship at the time. Which i know was very confusing of me. So before the pandemic i slept over and we went with his friends like usual we had a fun night and ended up hooking up at his place and took me home early morning. Then we hung out again about 2 almost 3 weeks again. It was different like the way we connected was crazy and i know he felt it too. We smoked with his friends and we’re just talking outside SUCH A VIBE BTW and eventually we went back to his house and on the ride to his house he was playing love songs and kept smiling and yooo like i was feeling some type of way so we get to his house and we both lay down and end up falling asleep cuddling 🥺 then i wake up bc i had cotton mouth and he goes for water so then we were just up talking and we start kissing and we start doing it but wow it was the best sex i had ever had. It felt so much more than just sex and in the morning he woke me up to kisses and was showing me a bunch of stuff on his phone. We then got ready to take me home since he works out of town he needed to pick up his brother. The ride back he was playing love songs again and he was telling me he didn’t want to drop me off and even starts going super slow on my street and singing which was the cutest. So we are supposed to hang out again soon. HOWEVER HERES THE CATCH i found his facebook and y’all he has a whole ass child. A little beautiful boy he looks about 4 years old. I was really taken back because now it’s not just him. Which i don’t mind since i’ve had time to think through. He is sometimes posts sad stuff and i ask if he is okay but he refuses to open up and what i am thinking is that he can’t see him. The picture he has is from a couple years ago and his baby momma his married and has another kid. I don’t know whether to bring it up or wait until he is ready and comfortable enough to allow me in that part of his life. Because i feel he doesn’t know where he stands w me as well since i had told him i didn’t want a relationship and don’t talk every day. He always emphasized on how he wants to take it slow and now i understand why but i used to think he was just not ready to settle so i didn’t want to deal with that. I want to take things serious now but i feel like i did confuse him a lot and don’t know how to take that next step or if i even should HELP