😔 he thinks another baby will fix this...

So where to begin?..

Me and my boyfriend have been together off and on for 4 years(5 this fall). I dont want to get much into our Background on our relationship but we had planned our first child at 18 years old and we had hoped our relationship would get better a few months into my pregnancy. To put it short, he messed up a lot and I ended up going through the first year with my son alone due to abuse and trust issues. He wasnt around much and he never helped out financially himself. I say this because his mom was the one to provide for him. So it was all on me. I wasnt able to get a job due to my son being "special needs"(he had a feeding tube put in because he wouldn't eat at first) and had mild lung disease so I couldn't trust anyone to watch him. After all the fight me and my boyfriend had done we had finally found a place to put our family back together. Or so I thought.

A few days ago i had went to go spend the night with him for Father's Day and our son came along to his house. It's not the first in while we've been over there but I've always felt he didnt want to pay much attention to our son and rather focus on something else. I'm not complaining because I'm his mom but the entire time I was there I was the only one changing his diaper. I was the only one making an effort to keep him busy. I felt as if I wasnt getting the support I was long hoping for. After the constant months of my sons father wanting to be around his kid, the tears to want to support him, i felt like this wasnt even true. So i asked him about it tonight... this was his responce..

To clear some things up... I didnt put him on the birth certificate because of the abuse that went on during my pregnancy and I wasnt sure if I wanted him to be the legal parent. We had picked a name our son was supposed to have and he had wanted to be there for the birth but he wasnt because he lived an hour away and because my labor started unexpectedly in the middle of the night.

I can see where he is coming from but now I just honestly feel bad. Our son just turned one in April and he's 11 months corrected since he was born 2 months early. He's only missed the first year. I get the first year a lot of milestones are to be made but I just dont know what to say to make him feel better. The fact that he thinks having another baby will make this better is honestly outta the picture and honestly scares the crap outta me as we dont even have our own place nor have the money for another baby. 😔😔 I dont even think I can carry another baby because I have a weak cervix. I also told him multiple times I dont want another baby unless I'm engaged and actually ready to be engaged. I dont think my mentality can take it either.

What would you tell him to make it better?