Girls, am I psycho or is my husband offside?

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Today I had a mix up at my pharmacy for some acne cream, I’ve been experiencing bad acne during pregnancy. I said to my husband “ugh being pregnant is so hard” and my husband goes “you should be happy you have it so easy, so many women have it so much worse”. I said you better never say that again. I’m like you know I know other women have it way worse than me but I just don’t think I need to hear that in a moment of frustration NOR do I need to hear it from my husband who doesn’t have any pregnancy experience and isn’t going through it.  I wish he was more supportive and understanding but honestly I just get the feel that he thinks I’m like dramatic and should just get over how I’m feeling.

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My husband’s reaction when I complain about something is naturally to try to “fix” it or convince me that it isn’t that bad.  It can be really annoying and makes me feel like he is being insensitive, when I just want support.  I have had to explicitly tell him that sometimes I just want him to listen and say “I’m sorry, that really sucks.”  It pretty much never crossed his mind that that’s all I wanted to hear!  Since we had that talk (and occasional reminders 😊), he is much better at sounding supportive.  Maybe tell your husband that is what you need to hear sometimes!  Pregnancy is hard for everyone in different ways, and it is legitimate for you to struggle with your body doing lots of crazy shit.  It doesn’t matter that some people have it worse.

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My response when people say things like this is:
Imagine you break your wrist.
Two days later, I break my leg and can’t walk.
Does your broken wrist hurt any less because my broken leg is worse?
No.
Even the most straightforward, low risk pregnancy is hard and extremely stressful on the body. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t express your pain or frustrations just because someone somewhere has it worse. Someone will ALWAYS have it worse.

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Just because other people have it worse doesn't mean it isn't hard for you! Pregnancy is a massive physical and emotional thing regardless!

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You are not crazy at all! Pregnancy does strange things to our bodies that men will never understand and it’s nice that they’re sympathetic at times but I take all of what my husband says with a grain of salt right now. I faced EXTREME acne with my first and that was difficult for me to fully enjoy my pregnancy and my husband tried to be sweet by saying I was still beautiful and growing which I knew was a sweet lie. Just know you’re not alone in the skin issue department. It’s frustrating and embarrassing and really affects your pregnancy experience. Don’t let anyone make you feel any sort of way though. You are still creating a whole person inside of you which is amazing! You got this, mama!

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Same! He doesnt understand what is going on, he tells me I'm crazy because of how I act. Yes, sometimes I'm cranky and mad at my doctor for not seeing me, how I'm feeling gross that day or whatever. Men are lame sometimes. Lol.

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I dont think my husband fully understood what I was going through with my sons pregnancy until I sat him down and spoke to him, as he often had made these insensitive comments aswell. But really just sisnt know any better of what pregnancy rly entails inside our bodies and the toll it does take. It doesnt justify them being insensitive nonetheless. They should respect us period. But once I had that conversation it definitely helped for the rest ...and this time around he has been much more supportive

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You're allowed to have feelings about uncomfortable changes happening in your body, he seems a bit insensitive

Girls, am I psycho or is my husband offside?

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