Is it hard to connect with your partner now that you have a baby/toddler?

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I thought I was ready for a baby, but I’m worrying a lot that my husband and I will grow apart and become so caught up in our parental roles that we won’t feel as in love and make time for each other. We’ve been married for 3 years, together for 7 and I’m worried about what it’ll be like when it’s not just “us” anymore

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It's hard. Especially in the beginning when there is really no rhyme or reason to life. Newborns have their days and nights confused for a little while, plus lack of sleep and then trying to work and take care of the house it's definitely hard to find alone time. Not only for the both of you but in general. Once my daughter started sleeping in her own room and sleeping longer stretches it became easier to spend time together after baby goes to bed. I was always told the first six months or so were the hardest and in my opinion it's true. Granted parenting isn't easy in general but by 6 months you're more confident, a routine is easier to stick to, baby is learning to self soothe etc. Lots of changes. I'm probably rambling and not making any sense so the moral of my rant is it will be tough but it doesn't last forever. Make sure to communicate. The learning curve kind of sucks but once you're more confident and comfortable things get better

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It’s definitely hard. We don’t get any time to ourselves anymore, and the lack of sleep and stress causes some irritability. We know it isn’t us and that it won’t last forever though.

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We’re having kid #3 in 4 years. So it hasn’t done much to slow us down 😂 
There are obviously times when things are more chaotic and harder to connect. But if you make sure you prioritize your relationship and not get lost as parents - take a date night, spend quality time when the kid is asleep, etc - you will be fine. I think having kids has made our relationship so much better.

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It’s definitely hard at the beginning stages, but once we got a routine going it’s been fine. Especially a bed time routine. Our baby goes down at 7:30-7:45 and we use that time to hangout, have a late dinner, and just talk. That’s been the best thing for us to stay connected!

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I personally feel it’s not the same, but in my case it’s mostly because I resent the way he parents our daughter. I don’t like it at all and y’all to him a lot about better ways to interact and react with her but it just turns into a fight and we are not the same. We don’t look at each other the same anymore.

Is it hard to connect with your partner now that you have a baby/toddler?

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