Wife says “go j*** off”

So this is a touchy subject for men and women I think... I guess some guys enjoy jacking off. I personally don’t... it’s frustrating for me and I personally absolutely love sex with my wife. (So hate on me... I don’t care)

But, we’re trying to conceive (TTC for all the newbies) and have been for about 9 months. It’s a very frustrating experience for her, I can’t even begin to imagine. She only ever wants to have sex (Baby Dance...?) when it’s “The Time” and would rather me jack off all other times...

I will absolutely sound selfish saying this, I know.

But, does any guy ever feel like their Spouse doesn’t want to touch them unless it’s for the Baby Dance? I’m personally absolutely ready to go when she is... so that’s never an issue (quite honestly she’s way out of my league, so I’m pretty much constantly turned on by her).

She is currently on some heavy duty medicine to help our fertility and I know she’s in a lot of pain. I’m being as sensitive as I can, it just definitely tears me down a bit when it’s “you need to jack off today...” and there’s no desire from her. Just wants me to go do it and I feel like she is doing it because she just doesnt want to or she’s turned off by me or what.

Any one ever deal with this? We’ve talked about it but I really don’t want to add any MORE for her to stress about so I’m trying to just deal with it. Its just starting to get to me