How much does your spouse/SO help you?

Hey 👋🏼 all! So I am curious about how much other people’s spouses actually help them around the house. My husband and I don’t have kids but we both work full time. He does practically nothing around the house. He leaves wet towels on the floor, socks all over the house, won’t use the dishwasher, heck..he won’t even click the button on our robot vacuum to start it. Now I’m not a major feminist but if we’re both working full time and he expects me to do “women’s work” (you know, like cleaning up after a man-child) then I think he should actually do the “mans work”. He didn’t mow or take out the trash for 3 weeks (grass was up to my thighs 😦) He left garbage in the outside trash can for so long, we had maggots🤮 (he doesn’t let me use his truck to take trash off or I would have done it myself).

He made the comment a few weeks ago that he was feeling like he takes me for granted bc I do everything for him. I explained to him that I just need a little help/appreciation from him. He said he understood and would do better but of course it hasn’t gotten any better. (This is also not the first time we’ve had a conversation about it)

Now he keeps bringing up us having kids and I’m like why the heck would I want kids when I’m the only one to do anything around the house now? Why would I add kids to the list of things that only I take care of?

Sorry for the long post, I’m just very frustrated. I’m so over constantly picking up after him. I’d love if anyone had an ideas or insight on how to make him realize I need help.