My husband videoed me during sex...

My husband confessed to me last night that he has a stash of videos of us having sex and me giving him blow jobs, they’re all either with me in doggy or blindfolded. I’m just so confused on it all; I confided in a friend about it over coffee and she said I should be glad he chooses watching us having sex over porn. I personally have no issue with the videos in itself but due to past sexual abuse I like having control of what goes on during sex; I just feel very disrespected, insecure, and unsafe right now thinking of all the videos and pictures he has that I never knew about. I know he’s my husband and I do send him things similar but it’s by my choice

Edit to add: the videos are all from his phone, I can tell by the angle of them. I do not want to leave him as dumb as it sounds, we’ve been together for 8 years with no other issues and we have a child together as well as another on the way. I do know we need a lot of work after this and I don’t think I’m comfortable with sex at the moment, which he respects and understands. I also do not want to get him in trouble legally, what he did was wrong and has hurt me but I don’t want to throw him in jail.