Triggered...

I’m sure this happens to everyone. And I’m sure other people have mentioned having more kids in passing to me. But for some reason this comment today really stirred up some feelings. We just moved to a new house/city and posted on social media to share w/ people. A friend (not a close friend) commented on it and said “house looks great! You could definitely fit some more kids in there...just saying 😉”

I immediately felt emotionally triggered and publicly outed. If you’re going to make a joking comment like that, do it one on one in person so I can respond appropriately. Not on my Facebook feed for all to see and to which I literally have no response for. It was obviously not the place...or kind to say at all, considering she has no idea it is a soft spot for me. I’ve always kind of rolled my eyes when people say they are upset by other people’s comments. Like...why does it matter? They don’t know, so just let it roll. But I get it now. It’s hard. We’ve been trying to have a second child for 16 months now (with two miscarriages) and to have someone jokingly comment about us having more kids just felt cruel, even though I KNOW it wasn’t intended at all that way. But please don’t publicly joke about a topic so personal?? I don’t understand why anyone thinks that’s okay.

I’m not sure if I’m looking for any advice or just venting. I guess just saying I know how it feels to be hurt by insensitive comments now. And I wish I had taken it seriously before. But if you’re feeling like me, know that you are not alone ❤️