Am I overreacting ?

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So , here i am. Needing to vent bc i have NOONE outside of my boyfriend that i can talk to. So .. Hi there . 
Anyways . 
A little backstory, Ive been physically and verbally abused for most of my adolescent years by my mothers boyfriend . So im not tolerant to ANY type of aggression from my sons father or any dude in general. Nor am i the type to be aggressive either. (Unless provoked) 
A year or so ago, he (sons father) had punched me on my arm and it left a bruise. We separated for maybe a month and got back together on the promise he wouldnt do it again. 
 So last night, our son woke up crying at 1 or 2am . I was tired , the father was tired and thats already a bad mix . I was aware my son was crying but you know when you JUST wake up and youre trying to adjust to being woken up , well that was me . For around 5 minutes . So the father gets mad bc im not moving fast enough and he doesnt want to deal with it bc he has work in the morning . So he slaps me . HOLD UP. Lol i know it sounds bad but it was through our blanket  and it was on my arm .
It did the trick . I got up , shoved him and yelled at him for raising his hand at me .
Son was taken care of and now its the next morning . My sons father mssged me asking if i was done being a “ Diva”. And i said “ are you done putting your hands on me .” So now he has been going back and forth with me about how im overreacting. 
Am i?
EDIT: my sons father was up a little before me when our son woke up crying . So he wasnt in a haze when he decided to slap me awake lol. It wasnt a nudge . I dont mind NUDGES. Lol

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I can not stress this enough.  Most men will hit you again after the first time. There is NEVER an excuse for him hitting you whether it is over the blanket or not. He easily could have gotten up with the baby.

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Hell no. I’d throw him to the curb. He’s already shown twice now that he’d put hands on you and did. That in itself would make me leave. He could have easily just said are you getting up or do you need me too work or not in the morning their is no reason to lay your hands on anyone. That’s a major red flag for me.

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No you’re not overreacting. Men are perfectly capable of being with a woman and never laying a hand on her (in that way). Period. No excuses on his part.

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Honestly my firth thought was "you're supposed to wait 5 minutes before getting up to check on a crying kid". Sounds like he's being a diva, wanting you to jump up so he can sleep. 
He could have stirred you awake better but I'd be mad if my husband did that to me. You can nudge me, rock me, or pet me awake but if you wake me up out of your anger, ill automatically wake in anger too. I may be wrong, but I'm pretty sure that's human nature. I mean, if you yell or slap a child awake they will be less compliant once they wake up versus if you wake them up gently.
Idk how much yall are fighting about it but I'd want an apology. 🤷‍♀️

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Did he see a therapist or counselor about his abusive behavior in the past? Because if he isn’t aware of exactly what impulse made him do it, or have a strong sense of emotional maturity in relation to disturbances or upsets, he’s going to keep doing it. Abusive behavior does not resolve on its own, no matter how much he promises or hopes he will never do it again. Because the moment something doesn’t go his way again, he will get physically violent. Him promising not to hit you again was like saying he promises not to hit you *unless* you do something that pisses him off. I would be GONE after the first time he hit your arm. No second chances for physical abuse.

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Based on how you described it and the circumstances around it,  that wasn't being slapped IMO. 
You were fully awake though  and put your hands on him by shoving him. There's no excuse for that

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You know the part where you said you had to adjust to being up? He was likely still in a sleep haze himself.

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No. You are not over reacting. My ex husband was abusive. He would push me, smack me, headbutt me, get right in my face and scream at me. 
My husband knows this and has only once gotten in my face but it was enough to trigger me and tell him to back the fuck off. 
I dont really have any advice 😕

Am I overreacting ?

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