[PCOS] How do I deal (besides pray to the big man upstairs) with the reality that my body will/might/could abort our child at any time?

Question

[not currently pregnant since 10th miscarriage a year ago due to car], what helps you cope? How do I stop being bitter about it?

Answer

I am so sorry for all your losses hun. It is so hard to lose a child 💔. I had a missed miscarriage at 8w with my son Billy on oct.10.2019 and my daughter Amelia was stillborn at 21w on April 24.2020. Unfortunately there is no magic fix for this, we will carry our pain with us forever. I’ve been thinking of a tattoo to honor my babies, but haven’t gotten one done yet. I also named my babies, so I can refer to them by name when I talk to them and about them. I attended an online grieving group for parents, I sometimes write in a journal, I pray to God every night and after that I talk to my babies, sometimes I sing to them, sometimes I tell a story... I also framed Amelia’s ultrasound pictures and have a little memorial with her hospital card. I have a candle next to it and I lit the candle every day to honor my babies and to remember them (not that I need the candle to remember my children) but it gives me purpose as they are not here to do diapers changes or feedings but I fee by lighting that candle every day I am doing something for them everyday. There is no peace and pain is unbearable but we mothers are a different and very special breed. Hugs 🤗 ❤️

[PCOS] How do I deal (besides pray to the big man upstairs) with the reality that my body will/might/could abort our child at any time?

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