Sometimes I don’t trust my parents

When I first got acne my mom told me to do a bunch of click bait DIY skincare hacks that only damaged my skin and made it worse for the long run but gave good instant results. She said that I just need to be “natural” after my got already damaged because not using any products at all is better than at lest trying to fix my skin. I don’t even think she’s researched what to do with my skin since that is “white people logic”. And if I have a bunch of skin Onondaga that I’m denying my African heritage and am trying to be “whitey white”.

And I’ve been asking her to help my hair grow, but the only thing she’s said is that ever since she was kid her hair has never grown out past her shoulders, so the same thing will happen to me. And that’s because we don’t have “white people hair”. Like my hair will stop growing at my shoulder because I am black. My hair was also really damaged and she did a big chop on my hair BY HERSELF, so my hair is now really uneven.

BTW I’m 14

Ever since about 6 months ago I’ve been doing my own skin care routine have noticed how much better my skin had gotten. ( but I still have some acne scars and uneven skin tone) While my mom’s skin has gotten gradually worse. I tried to tell her to wear sunscreen, but she said because we are black we don’t need it.Although of course to my mom it’s because I am becoming Americanized for wanting to take care of my skin.

My hair is also really good now it’s gotten longer (my shoulders) and is now going to pass that length. And it is no longer damaged ( but I do need to even my hair length by a professional ). My mom keeps saying that trying to grow hair out to my shoulders is long for an African person, and I am only going to disappoint my self when my hair stops growing because I am African.

Just goes to show that sometimes it’s better to just rely on yourself in life.