I have this friend That we’ll call Christine, that I’ve known since high school (over 15 years). She has 3 teenagers and an almost one year old.

I’m not a dramatic person and if anything I shy away when I see conflict happening. She’s done some stuff to me recently that I don’t understand. Like in the past year she randomly became Facebook friends with a someone I used to be friends with but they hurt me so I left them be. (The reason was I was diagnosed with infertility and they threw it in my face). Christine said she was friends with her to just make sure she didn’t say anything about me. I thought it was odd and she never knew this person besides me being friends with them. Christine would talk about stuff this person would post and ask my opinions on it and I wouldn’t saying anything because I’m not that person. Frankly I thought it was getting kind of disrespectful that she was being buddy buddy with someone who hurt me because Christine knew my TTC story.

Then we got pregnant this year. It’s been an awful year. My brother passed unexpectedly and everything else surrounding the pregnancy has been awful.

So that brings me to what happened now. Christine was throwing me a shower. She wanted to handle everything even though my mom was asking over and over to help. Christine told everyone stuff was ordered and booked a picnic area to be COVID compliant and invites were sent out early last month. Now we’ve found out nothing was done for it. Invites didn’t go out until 3 days before the RSVP date that was on them and no one could come because of the late notice. We had to cancel it. Christine said there was a cake ordered and desserts that she couldn’t cancel. She told DH she would get it all to him on 8/3 so it didn’t go bad.

I was hurt because I’ve never done anything bad to her. I’m the kind of friend who gets a call in the middle of the night and is there if you need me. She made sure her almost one year old’s birthday party invites were sent out 2 months in advance but the shower ones were 3 days before RSVP and only a couple of them made it to people. DH has heard nothing about the food (which we don’t really care about). I haven’t heard from her in three weeks. I found out her DH hurt his foot and texted to see how he was. She won’t return my messages. She decided to make masks as a side business and she’s been posting nonstop about it on Facebook. That and her daughters birthday party.

Like she’s wiped her hands clean of it. Why would someone who knows the journey we went through to have this child and knows about the tragedy I’ve been through with my brother would do this? It’s not the shower but the whole situation. Why would they seem to go out of their way to bring more hurt when I didn’t do anything?