I’m writing this from the parking garage from work so excuse if there are any typos.

So I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for a while and since I don’t talk to my dad he said he was okay with just going to my house and meeting my mother before we went to the lake so I could change into my swimsuit. I have an iffy relationship with my mom due to her being narcissistic ( my father is the same. Hence why there is no contact.)

So we get to the house, he parks in the driveway I run inside and walk into the laundry room to change and do all that - we walk outside to say hello to mom before we leave and she automatically brings up that my brothers friend committed suicide, and my boyfriend got visibly upset...I tried to kinda rush the meeting and cut it short - we went to the lake and fast forward to me having a chat with my mom this morning.

I told her calmly just like my therapist told me to, “ the conversation of suicide made him uncomfortable and I’d prefer if you kept family stuff to just family while I’m seeing him.” And she snapped at me and pretty much said “ if he can’t handle real shit he shouldn’t be with you, you don’t need someone who can’t handle real shit.”

It’s not that I don’t think he can, it just upset the both of us and it was supposed to be a happy “ it’s nice to meet you, I’m so glad you got the chance to come over!” Blah blah, yano? Normal stuff right. It wasn’t.

She also constantly talked trash about my father while they talked - and made out our family to be a fucking mess, which it is..but I just wanted a NORMAL conversation for once.

My mother is jealous I’m happy and I’m almost 95% sure she’s trying to make him leave because she’s single and lonely and my therapist semi agrees, she thinks she’s probably just upset that im not fully focused on her anymore...but idk.

Has anyone else dealt with insensitive parents? I don’t want this to be 8,000 pages long but I’m

Upset with the way it went and I don’t want him around my family ever again most likely. Plus she treated him like a piece of meat and kept complimenting his body and his face and how cute he was..now my mother fun fact- dates men around the age that I date. So early 30s...I snapped at her this morning and told her to keep her hands to herself and she said some shit like “ if he touches it’s not my fault.” And I’m fully over living with her anymore. She’s ruining my relationships and I need advice desperately.