How do you know when your marriage is over?

Question

We’ve been married for a little over 4 years now and nothing has been easy. 
We’ve always been terrible at communicating. He’s stubborn and thinks everything is my fault. He’s constantly throwing how it’s ‘his money’ in my face so I can’t leave (currently trying to find a job, been on atleast 10 interviewers) 
We’ve tried marriage counseling, the first 2 sessions we went together, then the counselor asked me to come alone because she could tell I was on edge and I couldn’t be honest with my husband present. 
My husband made it out to be that I’m ‘crazy’ and that’s why she wants to see my alone and every tiny once again is my fault. 
I guess I already know my marriage is over. I guess I’m asking how do you move on and separate yourself from a gaslighting narcissistic prick?

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I think if u have to ask..it’s over. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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leave

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Leave him, go no contact and free yourself from the narcissistic abuse. It will be tough, but so worth it, I promise you. Good luck

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I had to get to the point that I didn’t care what he thought or what he told other people. He would always say stuff like ‘you never loved me anyway’ and you never wanted to work things out with me etc and I’d always fall into defending myself. He’d blame me for breaking up our family and I’d feel guilty. Finally I just didn’t care. When he’d say it was my fault I’d say idc anymore. I told him he can tell whoever he wants that it’s my fault but I’m DONE with the bullshit. The truth was that I spent way too long in that marriage. I tried over and over and over year after year and this mofo was just reaping the benefits but not upholding his end. He’d cancel our counseling appointments because he didn’t want to go. The counselor wanted him to receive therapy on his own (he was diagnosed with depression and bipolar) and he wouldn’t go; wouldn’t take his meds. All he did was drink which made our lives worse. It was hell living with him and our kids had to put up with his shit too.

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Leaving my ex-husband was the most difficult thing on the planet. (Maybe not, but at the time, it was so hard and terrifying.) 
I know not everyone can do what I did to leave. It’s not always feasible. 
But I ran. He was horribly abusive in every way. 
One day when he was at work, I power packed everything that was mine and only mine. I called a couple friends and just word vomited everything that was going on and they helped me leave. It wasn’t the end by any stretch. But leaving the physical home helped me stay strong enough to stay away. 
Man, I still get flashes from that time. It was so hard. It broke me but I picked up my own pieces that he could no longer touch. 
Call someone. Friend. Family member. Even if you think they won’t care, reach out and say you need help and you are ready to leave and you need to leave.

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It's over. Start looking for a job ASAP and get yourself situated financially.

How do you know when your marriage is over?

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